I Dated A Scientologist—Here’s Exactly How That Transpired

I have usually made an effort to end up being open-minded when considering interacting with new people, and so I didn’t operate another way whenever my personal big date instantly disclosed he was a Scientologist. Just what ensued was certainly my personal
most notable dates ever before
, although it seriously left my head rotating. This is what took place.

1. 
   Every thing started out thus ordinarily.
   
   We’d came across in a restaurant for the reason that sort of “meet cute” way many dream of. The everyday conversation was actually in fact truly fascinating, and that I must state he was very pleasant when that dialogue turned into flirtation. I also hadn’t been on a night out together for some time during the time, thus I don’t actually hesitate when he questioned myself aside. The time it self was actually rather normal too. After all, we had been simply
   heading out for supper
   .
2. 
   Yeah, I was astonished in regards to the Scientology thing.
   
   We simply got our meals within restaurant after subject of faith emerged. The guy first questioned everything I thought in and I honestly admitted that I have been raised Catholic but presently regarded as me a lot more agnostic than whatever else. His response? “Oh. Really, I’m a Scientologist. Have you been knowledgeable about the Church?” Gotta admire how relaxed he was, but no, I had no clue which was coming.
3. 
   A non-Scientologist matchmaking a Scientologist is really quite rare.
   
   Relating to my personal date (and later affirmed by my post-date late night internet lookups), its rather unheard of for a Scientologist up to now some one outside the church. Along with Scientology getting one of those
   fundamentalist perception methods
   where theology is the answer to everything in life, the other basis for this is actually fairly simple. Scientologists only spend a lot of their individual amount of time in the church/engaging in chapel programs. That “meet cute” that individuals had during the coffee shop? He previously merely result from a session in church. And in which was actually he before the time? On chapel needless to say!
4. 
   The go out types of turned into exactly about Scientology.
   
   While I became inclined to state “OK!” and move ahead, my personal go out appeared extremely enthusiastic about just what our emotions on his faith happened to be. Reality ended up being that i truly don’t like to tell him my specific thoughts on Scientology when we insulted him, but In addition didn’t wanna lie… therefore I compromised with my self and informed him that, similar to people, I’d heard plenty of various things about Scientology, a few of which might or might not be genuine. That proved to be an error since the rest of our amount of time in that bistro based on him wanting to A) learn just what actually adverse things I would heard and B) convince myself that Scientology was actually simply GREAT!
5. 
   He had beenn’t one Scientologist I would ever met.
   
   While this was my personal basic (and simply) day actually ever with a Scientologist, the reality had been that I would understood one before. It absolutely was actually a pal of mine in university, though she’d long been quite silent in regards to the subject. After that emerged one summer time where she revealed she was actually making college to visit work with the Church and nothing of us have you ever heard from the woman once more. Actually her Twitter account had been deleted soon thereafter. From time to time i do believe about the girl and expect that she actually is okay.
6. 
   I became into reading every thing he previously to express, but only because We learn religions as a hobby.
   
   I Am
   maybe not spiritual myself
   but i am entirely fascinated by various opinion methods. For decades now, i have studied different religions in my own sparetime concise that I’m able to tell you the theology of the many main people after which some. But rather of enlightening my personal date that we already realized everything about courses, OT degrees, engrams, bridges, the Sea Org, Xenu, Tom Cruise, etc., we remained silent and listened. Provide everyone the opportunity to share their region of the tale, right?
7. 
   He’dn’t really respond to my concerns.
   
   Very much like I wanted to hear him discuss his own point of view on their philosophy, he was extremely elusive whenever I asked specific questions regarding it. Including, at one point I asked just how much it are priced at, on average, for a person to get started in Scientology. Their response? “its therefore amusing you ask that since you really can not put an amount upon it.” In the future, I inquired what can happen if he or one of his true relatives ever before kept the Church. “you actually have the creativity!” the guy said, before fast modifying the topic.
8. 
   Works out he’dn’t experienced very long.
   
   Like many Scientologists, my personal go out had accompanied because people in his household did, nevertheless turned out which they’d been included for just over 5 years, that will be fairly awful small when compared to a lot of people from inside the faith. He had been adamant that Scientology had altered all of their life when it comes down to better but also for some cause won’t truly enter specifics about their parents or siblings beyond principles like what age they certainly were and where these people were residing.
9. 
   He had been a really good, articulate man. But of course he had been!
   
   For individuals who do not know, Scientologists learn through their particular church classes how to communicate better with others. So, many of them are poised and well-spoken when around others, and that I imagine dates are not any exclusion. Much as I found myself frustrated by my personal go out’s obscure responses about his faith, I couldn’t help but admire the way he talked and transported themselves.
10. 
    No, the guy failed to attempt to recruit me personally (or at least he was understated about any of it).
    
    I held awaiting him to state something such as, “you need to appear see for yourself exactly why Scientology rocks. Here is a pamphlet!” but I trusted the truth that the guy never performed. He positively portrayed it in a positive light, and also at one-point the guy did let me know he thought I’d take advantage of it. However, the guy never ever pushed me to get look at the Scientology middle and I appreciated that. Perhaps he hoped I’d supply by myself commit.
11. 
    I was thinking it best for each of us whenever we didn’t continue circumstances.
    
    I don’t be sorry for my Scientologist day after all, but I understood we had beenn’t attending exercise. We politely acknowledge this at the end of the night so we hugged and parted means. I believe the guy understood that it was best action as well. We never ever watched him again.